Do you ever think about friendship? I do.
Normally I don't write posts for this blog unless they deal with books or reading. But this topic has been on my mind a lot lately and I thought it might be interesting to see what other people had to say. BBAW just ended and is a way for people to meet new, online, friends. But, what about real life friends?
Do you have lots of friends: people who call and stop by, people who do thoughtful things for you; girlfriends you get together with often?
Do you have only one or two really close friends? Do you feel like you're all alone in the world of friendship: that everyone else out there seems to have a life and girlfriends and you don't? Does blogging bring you more friends or take you away from your real-life friends?
Are you one of those blessed people who is the life of the party and can gather people around you like chicks to a hen? Or are you the one in the background: the one who is always reliable when it comes to church or work or PTA, but who no one remembers to call when they're going out to have fun?
I've been thinking a lot about friendship lately. I watch those around me, sometimes with a bit of jealousy, I will admit. There seem to be those women who just make friends easily. They are the ones who are always included in events and activities and often, they are the ones coordinating and instigating those activities and events. I wonder, were they always that way? Were they the popular girls in high school who were always involved and always busy?
I know some women through my boys' activities and I have a lot of acquaintances at church. There are a lot of women I like, and there are many who I consider to be my friends. And, I'd like to think that many of them like me in return. But, it's rare that they would think of me when they get together with each other. And, if I thought about doing something, I don't know that it would be easy for me to invite them along, even though I might think about doing it. Why is that?
I've decided that I don't make friends easily. I think that I tend to be a little prickly. I don't confide in others very easily and tend to be a bit private. I'm not a warm, fuzzy, awwww-type person who draws lots of attention, and if I have an opinion, I'll share it, even if it's not popular. I've had people here just look at me like I'm some weirdo, when I have an opinion that is different from theirs or the mainstream. I'm not super comfortable in crowds, although I can hold my own, and sometimes I think I'm even funny. The last few years have been interesting, friendship-wise, to say the least. Sometimes I think that I let my books become my friends.
I've never been a "have a lot of girlfriends person". My closest friends are women I've known for 30 years. They are women I went to school and church with as a child and young woman. I made some good friends in college, but we don't stay in touch like I do with my girlfriends I grew up with. Perhaps it's because we share a history. Perhaps it's because we just connected. Who knows? But, those close girlfriends live away from me, and while our friendships are strong and we are here for each other, I miss having close, every day girlfriends.
I've met a lot of people through blogging and I've met several of them/you in real life. Sometimes you click with someone immediately, sometimes you don't. But, I've learned that I'm not the only one who sometimes feels lost in the world of friends.
What about you? Talk to me. Share. Discuss.
Am I the only one who doesn't make friends easily?
Do you have any suggestions of how to make friends and be a better friend to the ones you do have?
Do you make friends easily?
Do you ever feel left out and ignored?
Do you have lots of girlfriends or just one or two?
Would you rather read a book or go out with a friend?