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Monday, May 19, 2014

Marriage Isn't for You: It's for the One You Love... Review

About the book:
What is the best wedding advice you ever received? For author Seth Adam Smith, it was the advice from his father who said, Marriage is not for you. It is about the person you marry. These few words completely changed the way Seth looked at his relationship with his wife-to-be. Because at that moment he realized that an expression of love is not about the person expressing it. Rather, it is about the person they choose to be with. It is about making the person you marry feel loved.

Seth's blog post on the subject was viewed by more than twenty-seven million people, and he has been featured on several national TV programs including The Today Show. Now released as a hardcover book, these sage words make the perfect gift for newly married couples, those who have been around the block a few times, or anyone who wants to learn how to make their relationships stronger.

I remember seeing the original blog post as it floated around the internet.  Seth Adam Smith shared the advice that his father gave to him before his marriage.  He also, honestly shared an experience when he realized he wasn't following that advice and he realized his actions were affecting his marriage. I thought the post was insightful and I agreed with it.

Marriage isn't about self.  Marriage isn't about 50/50.  Marriage is about two people each giving 100% of themselves and focusing on loving the other person.  When spouses focus on each other's happiness, rather than their own, that's when you see a truly strong, happy marriage. I love the thought Seth expresses when he says, "Selfishness demands, 'What's in it for me? Love asks, 'What can I give?'"

Seth's blog post is now a lovely little book with photos and text.  It's short and easily read in one sitting.  I think it is a little book that could promote fantastic discussions.  It would also make a lovely gift.

I think that few marriages are idyllic, even when each person tries to focus on their spouse and certainly there are many, many marriages that are seriously one-sided in the showing love department.  The high divorce rate reveals the difficulty that marriage can be.  But, marriage is also a wonderful, beautiful thing and the joys can outweigh the struggles, especially when each spouse is asking themselves, "What can I give?" rather than "What's in it for me?"

Thanks to Shadow Mountain for the opportunity to review this book.  You can learn more about Seth Adam Smith here.  You can purchase your own copy here.

Read 5/14

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