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Friday, October 25, 2019

Пятница Ponderings: The Pain of Healthcare

Ponder: to consider something deeply and thoroughly; meditate 
Пятница (PYAHT-nee-tsuh): Friday in Russian

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I work in healthcare. Have I ever mentioned that? The Doctor is a chiropractor and I am his office manager. We started this practice nearly three years ago. I have learned many things during this time. Want to hear some of them?

I've learned that peopling is hard for an introvert, but I've gotten somewhat comfortable in the role.

I've learned that I despise insurance companies.

I've learned that I like our patients.

I've learned that my husband is an amazing doctor.

I've learned that the art of truly caring for your patients is a lost one.

The Doctor spends time with his patients. He explains things: what he believes is wrong or causing their pain and what he is going to do to help them. He treats them so that they will get better, not to keep them coming back. If he can't help, or needs a different opinion, he will refer them out to a specialist.

He calls and texts patients to see how they're doing. Whether it's to follow up after an adjustment or if they've seen a specialist, or just because he knows they're struggling or noticed something was off. He has gone into the office on Sunday mornings and Saturday nights to see patients who are in distress.

We work together to make our office welcoming and friendly. If a patient needs a particular appointment time, we try to accommodate. If we can't, we'll say so, but I think our patients know we value them.

Because of this, I am always disappointed when I go to a physician's office and am treated as if I am a burden and inconvenience. I had this experience recently. Where a doctor puts too much faith in her office staff even when they have proven to be incompetent. But, because she trusts that they will do their job and follow-through for patients, she feels like she doesn't have to. And the patients suffer for it.

Working in healthcare has made me even more appreciative of my husband as a doctor and I am so grateful that he is a physician who cares.

Working in healthcare has also made me more jaded and I don't like that feeling.

Working in healthcare has made me realize that when you find those special doctors, keep them and express your appreciation.

Wednesday, October 23, 2019

How to Find Love in a Bookshop...#BookReview

About the book:
The enchanting story of a bookshop, its grieving owner, a supportive literary community, and the extraordinary power of books to heal the heart.

Nightingale Books, nestled on the main street in an idyllic little village, is a dream come true for book lovers--a cozy haven and welcoming getaway for the literary-minded locals. But owner Emilia Nightingale is struggling to keep the shop open after her beloved father's death, and the temptation to sell is getting stronger. The property developers are circling, yet Emilia's loyal customers have become like family, and she can't imagine breaking the promise she made to her father to keep the store alive.

There's Sarah, owner of the stately Peasebrook Manor, who has used the bookshop as an escape in the past few years, but it now seems there's a very specific reason for all those frequent visits. Next is roguish Jackson, who, after making a complete mess of his marriage, now looks to Emilia for advice on books for the son he misses so much. And the forever shy Thomasina, who runs a pop-up restaurant for two in her tiny cottage--she has a crush on a man she met in the cookbook section, but can hardly dream of working up the courage to admit her true feelings.

Enter the world of Nightingale Books for a serving of romance, long-held secrets, and unexpected hopes for the future--and not just within the pages on the shelves. How to Find Love in a Bookshop is the delightful story of Emilia, the unforgettable cast of customers whose lives she has touched, and the books they all cherish.

I love it when a book envelops you and wraps you up warm and cozy while you read it. Then, when the last page is turned, it squeezes for a moment as if to say, "Thank you for reading me" and gently releases its grasp and lets you go.

I adore a bookshop where I can browse and select title after title to peruse before choosing something to take home. If that shop has someone in it who loves to talk and share books, even better.

Nightingale Books is that shop. The stories of Julian and Rebecca and Sarah; of Alice and Jackson and Emilia; Thomasina and Jem and everyone else are a little bit magical. Their lives intertwine and are brought together by books and the haven that is Nightingale Books.

Perhaps it was a bit predictable to some, but this story captured me and I savored every turn of the page, wondering what would happen next.

How to Find Love in a Bookshop was a joy to read. Truly. I believe in magic. I believe in the magic of people and the magic of kindness and the beautiful magic of books. Nightingale Books is a place I will return to again.

Read 10/19

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5/5 Stars

Saturday, October 12, 2019

Weekend Reflection 10/12

Looking outside...it's fall. We're on our way to McCall and it's a gorgeous drive. 

Listening...to comfortable silence while The Doctor drives. 

Loving...that this is a getaway weekend and we are together. 

Thinking...it's been a difficult week. With ups and downs and some not-so-good news that made me cry and swear and threaten violence. But last night we had a powwow and have some answers and a tentative plan. We had pleasant dinner with extended family which was delicious and enjoyable. And sleep is healing, both physically and emotionally.


In my kitchen...I have no idea because I'm not home. Lunch will be a burger at My Father's Place. Dinner might be the same! 

Wearing...denim skirt, red sweater, black cardigan, Kennedy tartan scarf. It's Fall and I love it. 

Hoping... for some rest and relaxation and time with The Doctor. 

Reading... don't faint from shock, but I reviewed The German Midwife this week. Loved it. 5 stars. 

Today...is our 23rd wedding anniversary.

Quoting...


What would I do without your smart mouth
Drawing me in, and you kicking me out
Got my head spinning, no kidding,
I can't pin you down
What's going on in that beautiful mind
I'm on your magical mystery ride

And I'm so dizzy, don't know what hit me, but I'll be alright
My head's under water, but I'm breathing fine
You're crazy and I'm out of my mind

'Cause all of me loves all of you
Love your curves and all your edges
All your perfect imperfections
Give your all to me, I'll give my all to you 
You're my end and my beginning
Even when I lose I'm winning
'Cause I give you all, all of me
And you give me all, all of you

How many times do I have to tell you
Even when you're crying, you're beautiful too
The world is beating you down,
I'm around through every mood
You're my downfall, you're my muse
My worst distraction, my rhythm and blues
I can't stop singing, it's ringing, in my head for you

My head's under water, but I'm breathing fine
You're crazy and I'm out of my mind

'Cause all of me loves all of you 
Love your curves and all your edges 
All your perfect imperfections
Give your all to me, I'll give my all to you
You're my end and my beginning
Even when I lose I'm winning
'Cause I give you all of me
And you give me all, all of you
Give me all of you

Cards on the table, we're both showing hearts
Risking it all, though it's hard

'Cause all of me loves all of you
Love your curves and all your edges
All your perfect imperfections
Give your all to me, I'll give my all to you
You're my end and my beginning
Even when I lose I'm winning
'Cause I give you all of me
And you give me all of you

I give you all, all of me
And you give me all, all of you

John Legend, All of Me

Feeling...grateful for my husband. 23 years ago, we promised ourselves to each other. 23 years ago, I thought I knew how much I loved him. 23 years ago, I had no idea how much more I could love him today. He encourages me. He believes in me. He completes me.

We are each far from perfect, but we have learned so much about communication over the years. We've laughed and cried. We've had joys and challenges. But through it all, we've experienced it together. And there is no one else I'd rather live this life with than him. 

Planning...this to simply enjoy this time together. 

Gratitude...for a beautiful day that is brand new with no mistakes in it, yet.

From my world... 



What about you? What are you reflecting on this week? How has your week gone?

Thursday, October 10, 2019

The German Midwife...#BookReview

About the book:
Germany, 1944. A prisoner in the camps, midwife Anke Hoff is doing what she can to keep her pregnant campmates and their newborns alive.

But when Anke’s work is noticed, she is chosen for a task far more dangerous than she could ever have imagined. High in the Bavarian hills, Eva Braun is pregnant, and Anke is assigned as her caregiver.

Before long, Anke is faced with an impossible choice. Does she serve the Reich she loathes and keep the baby alive? Or does she sacrifice an innocent child for the good of a broken world?

Anke Hoff is a midwife who, because she helps Jewish women in direct violation of German law, is sent to a concentration camp. There, she finds herself caring for those prisoners who arrive at camp pregnant or find themselves pregnant from assault. The conditions in which these women live and are forced to give birth are heartwrenching.  But, Anke provides comfort and as good as care as she can under these circumstances.

Soon, she is taken to a mountain retreat to care for another expectant woman. Eva Braun, who is pregnant with Adolph Hitler's child. What follows is simply a compelling, powerful story that answers the question, "What would you do if...?"

The turmoil that Anke feels is palpable. How does she care for this woman, who carries an innocent child fathered by a murderous, evil man? As Eva's pregnancy progresses, Anke finds herself developing a friendship with Eva, who we come to view as a normal woman, experiencing her first pregnancy. A woman who is excited to welcome her first child.

The premise for this story is fantastic. Historically I don't know how accurate it is. But, honestly, I didn't care. And confession. I have sat on this review for months. Literally.

This book left me thoughtful. Wordless. At times it was a horrific gut punch. At other times, almost heartwarming and tender. But what it did so well was show the reader that in the moment of childbirth, every woman is the same. Every woman, no matter her station or her race or circumstance, is equal. Childbirth and motherhood unite us.

Easily recommended.

Thanks to Netgalley for the opportunity to review this. You can follow Mandy Robotham on Facebook and Twitter.

Read 2019

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5/5 Stars